Dialogues with God II

Man:  Hey, God, where are you? I need to talk to you.



Hey, God!

God: Well, what’s the matter now, old fellow? Why are you looking so down at the mouth?
M: You've noticed. I’m feeling depressed, you know how it is.
G: No, I don’t know how it is. What on earth are you depressed about at this joyful time of the year?
M: Well, that’s just it, you’ve put your finger on it.
G: Put my finger on what precisely?
M: It’s the Christmas thing, the whole shebang.
G: This Christmas thing? The whole shebang? I’m not sure I like the sound of that.
M: Well, it’s true. Christmas just gets me down.
G: This shebang, as you call it, is the celebration of my beloved son’s birth, divine spirit made into human flesh. This shebang is about the Saviour of mankind. And all you can do is mope around and complain?
M: Sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings, God, and it’s not really about your son.
G: Not really about my son? It’s Christmas... Christ... mass... and you say it’s not really about my son, the anointed Christ? Kindly explain yourself before you incur my divine wrath and I send down a lightning bolt to turn you into a heap of smouldering dust!
M: No, no, you don’t understand! What I meant is that it’s more about me and the way I feel rather than your son Jesus or Christ or whatever you call him.
G: Tell me more, because I’m still mad at you and I haven’t given up the idea of making you go up in a puff of smoke!
M: Calm down, God, and I’ll explain.
G: Go on, I’m listening...
M: Well, there isn’t much to it, really. But in simple terms, all this Christmas business... you know... all the shopping, present-buying, card-sending, carol-singing, goodwill to all men lark... and even the partying, boozing and bingeing that goes with it... all this enforced merry-making and jollity... is doing my mind in. It’s not my thing really.
G: Not your thing? I could take this personally and turn you into a leper this very second , but you’ve roused my curiosity now. What IS your thing then?
M: Well, it’s not so much that it’s not my thing, some of it IS my thing, like the noshing and boozing, but the rest of it I could do without. I mean, I lost my job this year, our mortgage payments went up and we’ve fallen behind with them, the price of everything in the shops has hit the fuckin’ roof, I’m pretty-well skint, the missus is spending the social money on presents like there’s no tomorrow, and we’ve got to go around smiling and laughing and be joyful in front of the kids and everyone else just because your son was born on this day a couple of thousand years ago. And the worst thing about it is that he probably wasn’t even born on 26 December!
G: Hmmmm... I see what you mean. I’m still hurting but I see your point. I must admit I don’t rightly remember myself when he was born exactly, but that doesn’t really matter, it’s the principle not the date that’s important. As for the rest, I can see you’re not having a great time of it, but Christmas comes just once a year and you could make an effort, for the kids at least.
M: Yeah, sure, for the kids. I haven’t got a penny to my name, we’re about to lose our house, I’m unemployable, the kids are driving me round the twist, the wife’s giving me grief every day cos things are getting shittier by the day, and you want me to make an effort. That’s just great!
G: You’re not a believer, are you, old man?
M: Believer? I suppose not.
G: No suppose about it. You’ve lost your faith.
M: Well, maybe I have. What’s that got to do with anything?
G: It has everything to do with anything.
M: Oh yeah? Like what?
G: Listen, my friend, I want to help you.
M: Help me? You’ve never helped me before all the times we’ve talked, so why should you help me now?
G: What’s gone on in the past is not necessarily relevant to what could happen now. Why do you think I’m having these chats with you?
M: I’ve asked myself that and I don’t have an answer. Maybe it’s to make me lose my mind. I’ve made the mistake of telling my wife about you and she told me to pull myself together and not mention it to another soul. She’s starting to think I’m mentally unbalanced. That’s what you’ve done to me!
G: That’s what you’ve done to yourself, old fellow! And I advise you to keep all this to yourself. But let’s get back to the matter in hand.
M: And what’s the matter in hand other than I’ve fucked my life up and everyone thinks I’m a born fuckin’ loser?
G: The matter in hand is that I can help you get things back on track if you do as I ask you.
M: Well the first part sounds good but I’m not so sure about the second part.
G: Well that’s the deal, my friend. Remember, I’m the Almighty and I can do anything I want. Nonetheless, I want you to do your part.
M: Okay, let me have the deal.
G: It’s simple. Turn back to me... err... to God.
M: What does that mean?
G: Embrace the faith again.
M: Are you having a laugh?
G: No. I’m deadly serious. Do you accept the deal or not?
M: Hmmm... maybe... depends on what it means.
G: It means that you should say your prayers every day, go to church every Sunday and on all religious holidays, bring Me back into your life and go back to being a real Christian.
M: Jesus! Oh, sorry...
G: That’s one bad habit you’ll have to put an end to. Now, do you accept the deal?
M: Hang on, you haven’t told me yet what’s in it for me.
G: Oh yes, I forgot. Well, simply put, it would mean the end of all your problems.
M: How’s that then?
G: Never mind how, just trust me. All I ask is that you come back to me, and then I’ll make all your problems go away. One by one, little by little, you’re life will turn around and happiness and fulfilment will come back into it.
M: You’re asking a lot of me, God.
G: I don’t think so, especially as the benefits for you are immeasurable.
M: You’re right. For a deal like that I would sign my life away to the devil himself!
G: Bite your tongue! For that remark alone I should take back the deal and send you to him to do just that! You ungrateful fellow!
M: I’m sorry, God, I’m sorry, it just came out, I didn’t mean it.
G: Okay. Now I don’t have much time, I have a lot of things to do today. So let me have your answer now.
M: Alright, alright... it’s a deal! I’ll do what you say if you get me out of this mess.
G: Good man! Here’s the contract to sign...
M: Contract?
G: Of course. You don’t think we could tie up a deal without making a binding agreement, do you?
M: I hadn’t really thought of that.
G: Well, that’s the deal, take it or leave it. Sign on the dotted line and your life will be transformed for the better.
M: I’ll sign, yes. Give me the contract and I’ll sign it.

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 God? Lord? Where are you? Where’s the contract? What’s happened? Where are you, God? Speak to me... speak to me... please... I said I’ll sign the contract... come back... I’ll sign... where are you, Lord? Where are you? I’ll sign... I’ll sign... I’ll sign.... don’t leave me, Lord... I’ll sign....

Passers-by wonder at the incoherent mutterings of the vagrant sprawled in the shop doorway and hurry on past, shaking their heads, as the night turns bitterly cold.

My Friend George

Two years ago, this very month, my friend George passed away in hospital in the arms of his grief-stricken mother.

George and I had been friends since secondary school and, though we had had our ups and downs over the years, our friendship had stood the test of time and we had kept in close touch. But life had been less kind to my friend and in his later years he was plagued by constant ill health. He had been asthmatic since his teenage years and then put on a lot of weight which did not of course help his condition. But this was nothing to what awaited him in later life.

One fateful day he injured his foot. At the time, though it was painful, he just patched it up and thought nothing of it. But instead of healing after a few days it became apparent that it was getting worse. In no time the wound had deteriorated to the point where it turned septic and he was forced to seek medical help. Unfortunately, despite lengthy care and nursing of the infection, it stubbornly refused to heal. Quite the contrary, some months later it had started to spread up his leg and now he was having real problems in getting about.

Whilst this was going on, he began experiencing inexplicable bouts of faintness and dizziness, and upon medical examination he was given the terrible news that he had diabetes. This of course came as a great shock to him and his mother, but ever the pragmatist George soon settled into the routine of injecting himself daily with insulin. Years passed and the diabetes inexorably took its toll on his health in general but he soldiered on uncomplaining.

However, worse was to come. To the great dismay of everyone, the infection in his leg, perhaps facilitated by his poor health in general and his diabetes in particular (and, be it said, by some wrong-headed and clumsy handling on the part of visiting nurses), had not abated even after sustained treatment but instead had travelled further up his leg and he was now unable to walk without a crutch. Eventually, gangrene began to set in, and the doctors decided that there was nothing for it but to amputate his leg as far as the knee if his life was not to be endangered! And so it was that George lost part of his right leg.

For awhile after this it seemed that his condition had stabilised and that he was out of the woods. But it was not to be. His asthma was giving him problems again, his diabetes was gradually wearing him down, and his general health had taken a turn for the worse. Psychologically too he was in low spirits, as might be imagined. Within weeks he was back in hospital and on a saline drip to stabilise him and he was receiving other medication. He had been in and out of hospital a number of times, so we all thought that this was just another admission, that he would get the care and treatment he needed and be out again. How wrong we were, for he was not to leave the hospital again alive.

Me and my friend George in happier times

The final blow was to come from an unexpected quarter. Whilst he lay in his hospital bed with his mother at his side, he suffered sudden kidney failure and within minutes he was in a critical condition. By the time the doctors got round to trying to recover the situation, he was beyond all human help. Already weakened by diabetes and in a very poor physical and mental state of health, this was enough to send him over the edge and put an immediate end to his life, and so he slipped away there and then beyond the reach of us all.

And so it was that my lifelong friend George drew his last breath and expired in the arms of his tearful mother who had so loved her only child. Moments before his death, sensing that he was not going to make it, he thanked his mother for devoting her life to him, for loving and caring for him, and asked for her forgiveness for the times he had spoken harshly to her or had hurt her in any way. His last words to her were an entreaty to promise him that she would be strong and not fall apart after his death.

And I for one can confirm that she has kept her promise to this day. Despite her continuing grief, her old age and her loneliness, she has hung on, honouring the promise she gave to her dying son. She has been very brave and kept strong, though it is clear for anyone to see that there is a deep sadness in her soul which will remain till her dying day. She had indeed devoted her life to her son and he had reciprocated and now she was left with the memories of a life they had shared so intimately together and which was gone forever.

None of us had expected that George would go before his mother, especially given her advanced years. She had lost her husband quite early on, then her sister, then her brother. But the cruellest blow of all was to lose her son, for this went against the natural order of things. She had brought him into the world and now had had to see him leave it while she lingered on in her late eighties without the company of the child she had doted on for so many years. As a parent myself, I instinctively know that there is nothing worse in this world than a parent losing a child. And in many cases parents are left with a certain feeling of guilt that perhaps they could have done more to save their child.

The above illustrates, I think, that none of us can know when our time will come. And youth does not necessarily guarantee many years of life to come. Our fortunes can take a sudden downturn and before we know it our life has run its course. People behave today as though they will live forever, especially the young. The celebrity culture and materialistic ethos that govern our society in this day and age give us a false sense of invulnerability and immortality. The desire for fame and fortune is inculcated into each new generation at the expense of the deepeste truths and realities of our finite existence. But no-one is spared that final exit from everything and this is vividly brought home to us by the image of a grieving parent embracing the lifeless body of their beloved child, as in the case of my friend George and his mother.

With the untimely death of my lifelong friend George another chapter in my life came to a close too. Something akin to what happened when I lost my mother to illness many years ago. An era came to an end, fresh painful memories were born, and a painful awareness of the ever-present eventuality of death was accentuated. And so the world goes on.


Postscript: His mother passed away in hospital in November 2011 after a brief illness.